// book // Love, Pinkie >.<, tells the story of Pinkie, a young girl confronted by the daily bombardments of internal struggles prevalent in our fast-paced, perennially wired, 21st century society.
Life . Self-worth . Technology . Shop . Money. Beauty . Diet . Friends . Family . Singlehood . BGR . Sexual Identity . Sex . Abortion . Religion . Dream.
A love letter with life messages.
Rockin' your world with Pinkie love.
Who’s your friend?
Friendship - It’s a word which doesn’t warrant further explanation or definition. Yet when pressed further, not many can tell you who their true friends are.Stories of life-long friendships have been told over and over again, be it from television shows, radio shows, movies, people, etc. Teen shows, Disney in particular, often feature the lead with a sidekick: his/her best friend since kindergarten. But somehow, we don’t seem to get tired with this kind of story-line.
I imagine that, when we hear of friendships that surpass it all, we become sorrowfully-hopeful in finding our very own dearest friends; people whom we have a special link with. Stories of friendships that stood the test of time attract the young and old; because some people lived through a big part of their lives without having someone they can truly call a friend.
For myself, I have a six-fold blessing for having 6 beautiful ladies I can trust my life with, and to have met them at a young age. But I did not realize the value of a friend—a best friend and true confidante— until someone expressed her loneliness in the lack thereof. She casually told me once that, at the age of 22, she was still looking for someone she can really call a friend. I told her I can be there for her, but I knew friendship is not something you can impose on, but it’s something that the two of us have to build, and to feel the same connection.
Friendship is not just for the fun times, but also for when the life gets difficult. Sometimes, life gets messy or gloomy or just plain confusing. Sometimes, even your own mother cannot understand you. These are the times we call upon a friend we can always count on. Friendship means being there for your friend when he or she needs you.
And really, it’s when the going gets tough that you find out who your true friends are - those that are worth keeping - and those that they were never your friends to begin with. I know of this girl, she always hung-out with this a big group of gregarious girl friends. And yet, when she was rushed to the hospital due to a sudden chest pain, no one was there for her except me—a mere acquaintance, if not a complete stranger.
Stories like that are sad, but very true. These days, many girls find themselves hanging out with people just because they are fun, and not because they trust and care for one another. The former is all good until you fall or get plagued by emotionally scarring experiences. It will be sad if there’s no one there in the end to care for you.
So when you are in the company of your peers, think back to why you hung-out with them in the first place: Is it because you’re lonely? Is it because they simply liked the same things you did? Or maybe, it is because they are ‘cool’? I hope that you’ll find that these reasons are not the only reasons why you have your friends. Because friendship may mean kissing loneliness goodbye, sharing things in common, and being your own kind of cool together. It is all that, but also so much more.
Friends are your loyal allies in life’s battles. And like any good ally in the midst of a losing battle, your true friends are the only ones who can break the truth to you when everyone else will tell you what you want to hear—no holds barred. And your friends are the ones who can truly understand and accept you as you are —the crazy, beautiful, emotional, weird, smart girl —no questions asked.
If you have not found a friend like that yet, I sure hope and pray that you will find a sister of the heart soon.
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Grace Enojo is an 18 year-old journalism student from the Philippines with a penchant for all things Pink. She is currently a sophomore at Silliman University who loves to bond with friends over cupcakes and coffee. Check out her blog at saccharinedreams.tumblr.com